{"id":51860,"date":"2025-01-15T02:10:00","date_gmt":"2025-01-15T01:10:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/37f3dc94-b291-499c-927f-47ef8d433b94"},"modified":"2025-01-15T03:09:20","modified_gmt":"2025-01-15T02:09:20","slug":"no-deflowering-took-place-inside-tchaikovskys-tragic-sham-marriage","status":"publish","type":"rss_feed","link":"https:\/\/c01.purpledshub.com\/bbcmusicmagazine\/rss_feed\/no-deflowering-took-place-inside-tchaikovskys-tragic-sham-marriage\/","title":{"rendered":"&#8216;No deflowering took place&#8217;: inside Tchaikovsky&#8217;s tragic sham marriage"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"rssexcerpt\"><\/p><p class=\"rssauthor\">By <\/p><p class=\"rssbyline\">Published: Wednesday, 15 January 2025 at 01:10 AM<\/p><hr class=\"no-tts wp-block-separator\"\/><?xml version=\"1.0\" encoding=\"UTF-8\" standalone=\"yes\"?>\n<!DOCTYPE html PUBLIC \"-\/\/W3C\/\/DTD HTML 4.0 Transitional\/\/EN\" \"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/TR\/REC-html40\/loose.dtd\">\n<html> <head\/> <body> <p><strong>&#8216;From today I seriously intend to enter into lawful matrimony with anyone at all.&#8217; This was the seemingly frivolous comment that the great Russian composer Pyotr Ilyich <a href=\"https:\/\/www.classical-music.com\/composers\/pyotr-ilyich-tchaikovsky\/\">Tchaikovsky<\/a> made to his his brother Modest in 1876. Tchaikovsky was 36 years old at the time. Of marriageable age, in short, although if you know much about the composer&#8217;s life you&#8217;ll know that this wouldn&#8217;t have been a wise move. Nonetheless, Tchaikovsky was in deadly earnest. The following year, true to his word, he would take a wife. <\/strong><\/p> <h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-who-did-tchaikovsky-marry\">Who did Tchaikovsky marry?<\/h2> <p>On 18 July the following year, just 11 months later, Tchaikovsky married Antonina Miliukova, a woman eight years his junior, at a Moscow ceremony with most of his family absent. Why did Tchaikosvky marry, and what happened next?<\/p> <figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\">  <figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"> Tchaikovsky and his wife Antonina Miliukova, 1877. Pic: Fine Art Images\/Heritage Images\/Getty Images &#8211; Fine Art Images\/Heritage Images\/Getty Images <\/figcaption> <\/figure> <p>Their union lasted the blink of an eyelid: two months later they separated, never to be reunited. What had gone so spectacularly wrong?<\/p> <p>The official line, peddled for decades by friends and family of Tchaikovsky, was that his wife Antonina was to blame. A one-time student of Tchaikovsky\u2019s at the Moscow Conservatory, she wrote to him in the spring of 1877 confessing her long-held love and admiration. Against his better judgement Tchaikovsky replied, starting a correspondence which Antonina described as \u2018not without interest\u2019.<\/p> <h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-a-crazed-half-wit\">&#8216;A crazed half-wit&#8217;<\/h2> <p>The two were, though, desperately ill-matched. Despite a respectable family background, Antonina was, Tchaikovsky wrote, \u2018utterly poor\u2019 with only an \u2018average level\u2019 of education. His brother Modest was even more unkind, calling her a \u2018crazed half-wit\u2019 who was unable to understand her future husband\u2019s refined sensibilities and intellectual interests. In truth, however, Tchaikovsky\u2019s blind desire to suddenly marry \u2018anyone at all\u2019, and use her as a cloak to hide his homosexuality from society, was the real culprit.<\/p> <div class=\"wp-block-group highlight-box is-layout-flow wp-block-group-is-layout-flow\"> <div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-flow wp-block-group-is-layout-flow\"> <ul class=\"wp-block-list\"> <li><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.classical-music.com\/features\/recordings\/the-best-and-worst-recordings-of-tchaikovskys-romeo-and-juliet\/\">The best (and worst) recordings of Tchaikovsky&#8217;s <em>Romeo and Juliet<\/em><\/a><\/strong><\/li> <li><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.classical-music.com\/features\/works\/a-guide-to-tchaikovskys-the-nutcracker\/\">A guide to Tchaikovsky&#8217;s <em>The Nutcracker<\/em><\/a><\/strong><\/li> <\/ul> <\/div> <\/div> <p>He had good reason to fear that his sexuality could ruin a career that had already yielded masterpieces such as the ballet <i><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.classical-music.com\/features\/articles\/guide-swan-lake\/\">Swan Lake<\/a><\/strong><\/i> and the First Piano Concerto. Russian society of the period tolerated homosexuality only if it remained private. Declaring it publicly would, Tchaikovsky realised, bring shame and scandal, and \u2018pain to the people close to me\u2019.<\/p> <figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"> <div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\"> <iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Swan Lake \u2013 Entr\u00e9e and Adage from the Black Swan pas de deux (The Royal Ballet)\" width=\"800\" height=\"450\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/p21n1xorjEs?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" allowfullscreen=\"\"\/> <\/div> <\/figure> <h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-no-deflowering-took-place-nor-is-it-likely-to-happen\">\u2018No deflowering took place\u2019<\/h2> <p>But was marrying a woman he barely knew and didn\u2019t love \u2013 \u2018to shut the mouths of all those scum whose opinions I don\u2019t give a damn about\u2019 \u2013 really the answer? For a while it seemed it might be. Tchaikovsky told Modest he wanted a woman who would \u2018not interfere with my peace of mind or my freedom\u2019, and initially he reported Antonina was \u2018blindly compliant with my every wish\u2019.<\/p> <p>This included, he added breezily, the non-consummation of the marriage. \u2018No deflowering took place,\u2019 he wrote of their wedding night, \u2018nor is it likely to happen any time soon.\u2019<\/p> <ul class=\"wp-block-list\"> <li><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.classical-music.com\/features\/articles\/tchaikovskys-symphony-no-6-pathetique-brings-his-life-to-a-close\/\">Tchaikovsky\u2019s Symphony No.6 \u2018Path\u00e9tique\u2019 brings his life to a close<\/a><\/strong><\/li> <\/ul> <p>This unnaturally contrived situation, stifling for Antonina, couldn\u2019t last. Tchaikovsky admitted to finding her physically \u2018absolutely repulsive\u2019, a rejection which must have shaken Antonina deeply. He spoke of \u2018unbearable moral torments\u2019 and was unable to write music. Wracked with anxiety, he suffered a complete nervous collapse and fled to Switzerland, leaving a hapless Antonina behind.<\/p> <p>Some of the tormented passions of this period found their way into <i>Eugene Onegin<\/i>, the opera he was writing.<\/p> <figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"> <div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\"> <iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Tchaikovsky - Eugene Onegin (Polonaise)\" width=\"800\" height=\"450\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/iR9P82WbQug?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" allowfullscreen=\"\"\/> <\/div> <\/figure> <h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-did-tchaikovsky-s-sexuality-play-a-part-in-his-failed-marriage\">Did Tchaikovsky&#8217;s sexuality play a part in his failed marriage?<\/h2> <p>\u2018The best of all his operas,\u2019 Antonina later called it, \u2018because it is based on us\u2019 \u2013 though in fact Tchaikovsky had started composing it before their first encounter. The two remained officially married \u2013 divorce was complicated in tsarist Russia \u2013 but the rift was total. From that point on, Tchaikovsky vilified his wife as \u2018the reptile\u2019, and Antonina has been demonised for destabilising their marriage with unreasonable emotional demands, not least by those keen to airbrush the composer\u2019s sexuality from official narratives of his life.<\/p> <p>Nowadays, however, we may view her as a largely unwitting victim of a sexually repressive society, and of a husband whose attempt to hide his own sexuality led to marital disaster \u2013 albeit some recent biographers have claimed that prior to his untimely death he was reconciled to his homosexuality. Antonina outlived Tchaikovsky by 23 years although, sadly, she spent most of this time in psychiatric hospitals.<\/p> <h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-clues-to-tchaikovsky-s-unhappiness-in-his-music\">Clues to Tchaikovsky&#8217;s unhappiness in his music<\/h2> <p>Alongside the tortured passions of <em>Eugene Onegin<\/em>, it&#8217;s interesting to look at some of the other music Tchaikovsky composed during this relatively short but intensely unhappy period of his life. 1877, the year of his marriage, also saw him working on his Fourth Symphony, whose first movement has an incredibly powerful, urgent, and (you might say) doom-laden &#8216;Fate&#8217; motif.<\/p> <p>A cry for help from Tchaikovsky, an outward expression of his feelings of powerlessness and incarceration within a deeply unhappy relationship? Here it is in a suitably emotional performance by the great <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.classical-music.com\/features\/composers\/leonard-bernstein\">Leonard Bernstein<\/a><\/strong> and the New York Philharmonic:<\/p> <figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-4-3 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"> <div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\"> <iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"P. TCHAIKOVSKY - Symphony No.4, f moll, Op.36 [New York Philharmonic, Leonard Bernstein]\" width=\"800\" height=\"600\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/t1VRuZGAFOY?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen=\"\"\/> <\/div> <\/figure> <p>Conversely, among the pieces that Tchaikovsky composed after the breakup of his marriage is his wonderfully eloquent, ebullient <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.classical-music.com\/features\/recordings\/best-recordings-tchaikovskys-violin-concerto\">Violin Concerto<\/a><\/strong> &#8211; for our money one of the very <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.classical-music.com\/features\/works\/best-violin-concertos\">greatest violin concertos<\/a><\/strong> in the repertoire. Could this exuberant, richly colourful piece be &#8211; among other things &#8211; an expression of joy at his release from this disastrously unhappy time?<\/p> <figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"> <div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\"> <iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Tschaikowsky: Violinkonzert \u2219 hr-Sinfonieorchester \u2219 Hilary Hahn \u2219 Andr\u00e9s Orozco-Estrada\" width=\"800\" height=\"450\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/2Q_DzWUvcL8?start=2&amp;feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen=\"\"\/> <\/div> <\/figure> <p><strong>As well as being one of the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.classical-music.com\/composers\/the-best-ballet-composers-of-all-time\/\">best ballet composers ever<\/a>, Tchaikovsky is considered one of the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.classical-music.com\/composers\/50-greatest-composers-all-time\/\">greatest composers of all time<\/a><\/strong><\/p> <p><strong>Read our <\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.classical-music.com\/tags\/tchaikovsky-reviews\"><strong>reviews of the latest Tchaikovsky recordings<\/strong><\/a><\/p> <\/body><\/html>\n<hr class=\"no-tts wp-block-separator\"\/>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>By Published: Wednesday, 15 January 2025 at 01:10 AM &#8216;From today I seriously intend to enter into lawful matrimony with anyone at all.&#8217; This was the seemingly frivolous comment that the great Russian composer Pyotr Ilyich Tchaikovsky made to his his brother Modest in 1876. 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