Barbie is part of a growing trend of movies that give female characters a different type of closure.

By Jess Bacon

Published: Tuesday, 08 August 2023 at 10:02 AM


Since the beginning of time, since the first little girl, there has been the promise of a happy ever after.

In stories as far-reaching as fairy tales to tabloid splashes, a woman’s happy ending has been found in heterosexual romance: the knight in shining armour, a reformed man (different from the others, of course), with true love’s kiss.

Thus, the blueprint for women’s happiness and success was born… or so it seemed.

Thankfully, it appears Hollywood is finally changing the narrative.

“I’m not in love with Ken,” Barbie (Margot Robbie) defiantly says in Greta Gerwig’s billion-dollar pink-culture hit. As the dust settles on Barbie’s reality-shattering existential crisis, it dawns on her that Mattel’s man-made ending of a plastic-fantastic boyfriend won’t make her happy.

Barbie rejects the age-old narrative that a romantic relationship will magically solve all of her problems, and chooses to leave the man whose identity is heavily intertwined with her own.

Barbie knows she won’t find herself if she settles for the familiarity and security of being just Barbie and Ken. After all, Barbie has her own dreamhouse and dreamcar in a pink matriarchal paradise; would she really give all that autonomy up for a boyfriend?

In response, Ken has a breakdown, as in their subversive land he is extremely co-dependent (as women typically are in the ‘real world’) on her love as an affirmation that he has value and is “Kenough”.

It sheds light on how much of our identity can be lost in a relationship, by over-compromising to the person with higher needs.

Typically, the pressure is on women to adapt, to shrink themselves and their needs for the sacrifice of their so-called ‘happy ending’.

Equally, if the pinnacle of success is sustaining the stable love of one man, where does that leave queer women?

Similarly, in Dungeons & Dragons: Honour Among Thieves, Edgin (Chris Pine) and Holga (Michelle Rodríguez) are an inseparable, formidable team, who even raise his daughter, but remain “like brother and sister”. As Edgin’s wife died, it would have been easy to introduce his only female friend (who his daughter adores) as his new love interest.

Edgin even sacrifices his wife all over again, to use his one ounce of dark magic to resurrect Holga. This stereotypical act of heroism would have typically been ‘rewarded’ with a kiss. Yet their relationship never becomes romantic or sexual. Their friendship is proof that platonic love is as powerful and strong as any romantic one, as it even conquers death.